Here is a simple tool for 1:1s in Turbulent Times. It’s not long and it’s not complicated; it serves simply as a way for someone to prepare some thoughts so you can get beyond “wow, this is a crazy time, huh?”
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Thoughts on Adult Development in the Workplace by Jen Dary
Like with any successful 1:1, your report really just wants to know you’re listening to what they’re saying. Use the opportunity to check in virtually and to reassure everyone that something in this world is still the same.
While the world handles the Covid-19 virus, we can’t babysit for hours – but we *can* offer you 15 minutes. Check your email, respond to the message with the highest priority… or make a cup of coffee. Your choice.
If you’re the person who says yes all the time, we have never heard you say no. And since there is not a person on this earth who has not wanted to decline things at some point, we start wondering: when is it a real yes? When is it a fake yes? In short, we stop trusting you.
Join us for So Now You’re a Manager’s cohort 013 this June 25-26, 2020. We will be hosted by Two Sigma Ventures in Soho. This is our third time back in NYC for this event and it’s always such a good time.
Stressed-out people are, quite simply, stuck. They often lack the ability to prioritize and act — an overwhelming momentum swallows them. As the manager, you can gently help them re-see and take a breath.
And here we have it: a problem with identity. A manager who has just seen that a powerful question can open up fascinating metaphors and be reapplied to work, career path and more cannot authentically find a way to ask it. So her 1:1s will remain stagnant.
If you’re investing in coaching, you want to see that you’re making progress. Everyone, especially your coach, wants to feel that the time was well spent. Ideally, you will arrive to your coaching session with these three things…
You could spend your entire life justifying the logic behind your 9-5 responsibilities. Recruiters are ready to make short work of your wondering. 401ks and mortgages and health benefits are all real concerns and I don’t mention them lightly… but what the hell are you doing in this life if you are ignoring your own answers?
We’re having a reunion for all graduates of So Now You’re a Manager. It’s part HEY! YOU AGAIN! and it’s part Jen Teaches Us and it’s also part Alumni Wisdom. Because your colleagues (maybe even you?) are going to be presenting talks this time.
You should trust that your vulnerability is an honor for someone to witness… and no matter how many podcasts and books and speaking tours a coach has marketed, do not hire them if they don’t make you feel safe.
Trees, like humans, have better years than others. In good years, there is more water, good sunlight, less threats to the system. When you look at a tree’s stump, you can tell which years had better growing conditions and which years were really hard. Coaching is one resource that you may leverage to amplify your growing conditions.