I have a theory about healthy, fulfilled working adults. I use this often in coaching, particularly when someone is struggling to figure out the current purpose of work in their lives.
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Thoughts on Adult Development in the Workplace by Jen Dary
WE ARE EMERGING FROM A GREAT DISRUPTION. This is your chance! You just lived through a worldwide pandemic and it would be very reasonable for you to be changed afterwards.
“Self-care” is math, quite simply a question of depleting and refilling. Have you ever spent time in a sandbox? You can’t build mountains without making holes.
I hope we’re on the precipice of some recovery in our Covid world and – to be frank – I think many of us have no freaking idea how to recover. Our needs are deep.
If you’re the person who says yes all the time, we have never heard you say no. And since there is not a person on this earth who has not wanted to decline things at some point, we start wondering: when is it a real yes? When is it a fake yes? In short, we stop trusting you.
If you’re investing in coaching, you want to see that you’re making progress. Everyone, especially your coach, wants to feel that the time was well spent. Ideally, you will arrive to your coaching session with these three things…
You could spend your entire life justifying the logic behind your 9-5 responsibilities. Recruiters are ready to make short work of your wondering. 401ks and mortgages and health benefits are all real concerns and I don’t mention them lightly… but what the hell are you doing in this life if you are ignoring your own answers?
You should trust that your vulnerability is an honor for someone to witness… and no matter how many podcasts and books and speaking tours a coach has marketed, do not hire them if they don’t make you feel safe.
Trees, like humans, have better years than others. In good years, there is more water, good sunlight, less threats to the system. When you look at a tree’s stump, you can tell which years had better growing conditions and which years were really hard. Coaching is one resource that you may leverage to amplify your growing conditions.
Thanks for helping to hold the leaky roof up and for pointing out that, even through the cracks, we can all see the sky. You make work a better place to be.
Part of the difficult work of being a leader is realizing that you have less time to get your shit together then others. It is part of the gig. That’s why it’s so important to have those tools and resources in place when things get hard.
The point of writing job descriptions is so that people know how to spend their energy or the percentage of “bent out of shape” they must get over the matter at hand.